Fat, Frumpy and Fifty

by Isabella
(USA)

I have to agree with the previous woman. I want to be fabulous but look in the mirror and see fat, frumpy and fifty.

Actually I don't look in the mirror much anymore, it hurts.

I know the girls at work make fun of me, especially when I have a piece of the birthday cake provided when it is someone's birthday. They don't know I don't eat a lot and this is a treat for me.

Sure sure, if it's to be it's up to me.
That's what my friend said to me the other day.

So in answer to your question my life is boring and it is difficult.

I turned fifty last month and no-one even knew it was my birthday.

You know, I truly do want to look fabulous. Some people have even told me I have a pretty face.


Answer:

Hi Isabella

Thank you for sharing your story.

Regardless of what other people think of us, it is our own self image which makes the difference to how we live our lives.

How do you know the girls at work make fun of you?

Sometimes we are so caught up in our own thoughts of who we are (which can be destructive thoughts) that we perceive others see us in that way as well.

If you truly want to be fabulous, as you say, then start seeing yourself as fabulous. Walk like you are fabulous, talk like you are fabulous, smile like you are fabulous and Isabella, you will be fabulous.

How do I know this?

When I turned fifty I treated myself to a seven week backpacking trip around Italy and the Greek Islands.

I met an amazing Italian woman called Christina.
Christina was a big girl who had a big heart, a big smile and a big voice to match her big personality. I was fortunate enough to spend a few days of my journey with her.

Christina was like a magnet, drawing people to her with her wonderful way of interacting with the world.

I was invisible next to this incredible woman who valued her place in the world and valued who she was.

It is about attitude Isabella; if you believe you are fat and frumpy then you are.

Decide exactly what you want to believe, because you can.

I think you are pretty fabulous to have been gutsy enough to share your story.

Thank you.

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Mature at last!
by: Anonymous

What a marvellous reply.

So encouraging and insightful and so true. You are what you think you are.

It is hard to ignore what we perceive to be other people's opinions of us but by the time we reach our 50s and 60s, we have been there and done most things and actually know what we are about.

Have faith in your own judgement and go for it!


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LOVE this story!
by: Sam

Thank you for this little piece of inspiration.

When I turned 55, I started to see how old I looked when looking into a mirror.

It seemed like I had aged overnight.
I looked and felt old.

Luckily I caught myself and decided to see myself as 'gorgeous'. Even started wearing red lipstick, much to my
son's initial dismay. He got used to it though.



Victoria's Response:

LOVE your comment Sam ... and so true!

When we look into that mirror, if we really looked into that mirror, we would see deep into our eyes and see our true beauty.

Take a look.

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